Is this you?
If you are like most of my clients, I'm certain that you are feeling tired and frustrated with your anxiety and depression. You are unable to understand why it is so challenging to live with it and why it doesn't go away. Instead, it actually seems to get worse over time.
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Maybe you are someone that does everything you are supposed to, but anxiety is still in charge of you and your life. Sometimes you can`t shake it off and anxiety always gets the better of you.
This is what happens when you don't have the tools to help you when you need them.
I know you just want to get rid of it, I can relate.
Anxiety is the symptom, not the problem!!
I realised the most powerful way to get rid of unhealthy anxiety is to look at the root cause of it, embrace it, accept it and change your relationship with that unhealthy, stubborn anxiety and what is behind it.
That`s why I have created my own THERAPY METHOD that is tailored catered for each one of my clients. I use to help my clients to return to their life and stop anxiety from getting them stuck and feeling frustrated.
You are not ALONE here!
However, anxiety is a natural emotion response to a stressful, challenging or dangerous situation and is there to protect you or give you that push you need when it happens, but it soon fades away.
What you need to pay attention to, is try to notice what kind of anxiety it is. If it is a normal anxiety or unhealthy anxiety. Unhealthy anxiety can paralyse you, stay for a long period of time, slow you down, make you overthink, sometimes obsess or worry too much, affect your body physically and stop you from living your life.
However, persistent anxiety is a symptom, not the problem.
The key to overcoming unhealthy anxiety is to look at its root cause, embrace it, accept it, and change your relationship with it.
You feel it—an urge for something more. More clarity. More purpose. More alignment with the life you know you're meant to live.
Yet, every time you think about taking the next step, doubts creep in: "Is this for me?"
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It's not just hesitation—it’s the weight of old patterns, deep-seated fears, and the unconscious need to stay in the familiar. The mind craves certainty.
The past echoes in the present. But what if transformation didn’t have to feel so overwhelming?
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What if you could untangle these inner conflicts, understand what’s holding you back, and step forward—not with forced confidence, but with real, grounded certainty?
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This is the work we do. We go beneath the surface, beyond mindset shifts, and into the roots of your patterns.
Because lasting change doesn’t come from forcing yourself forward—it comes from truly understanding why you feel stuck in the first place. And once you do, everything shifts.
​Here is how it will the start!.
​​​​Understanding Your Mind with Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
​I follow the principles of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, focusing on analyzing and uncovering the roots of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
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​​​Exploring Unconscious Thoughts
We will explore your unconscious thoughts, which originate from the family environment and experiences you grew up with. These thoughts influence how you view life and make relational choices.
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​​​Addressing Specific Issues
We will delve into the specific issues that brought you to seek therapy, aiming to enhance your self-awareness and illuminate the origins of your experiences. My goal is to help you recognize self-destructive patterns so you can break free from them.
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​​​Gaining Insights and Empowering Change
By gaining insights into these unconscious patterns of behavior, you will be empowered to take control of your life, moving beyond unhelpful tendencies and embracing a more authentic existence.
I'm Paula Miles. Nice to meet you!
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I am a UK-licensed psychotherapist and psychoanalyst running my private clinic in the UK, dedicated to uncovering and addressing the root causes of emotional distress and trauma.
Through a deep psychoanalytic approach, I help clients break free from unconscious patterns and behaviors, fostering lasting transformation in their lives.
I am a UK BACP member (01022869), currently pursuing an MSc in Psychology and also a member of the BPS - British Psychological Society (759570)​
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My experience with Anxiety and Depression​
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My journey with anxiety and depression began over 13 years ago. I understand the destructive power of the mind, its impacts on the body, and the benefits of therapy in overcoming past traumas and life's greatest challenges.
My personal journey of self-discovery and healing was very challenging, and there were many times I felt like giving up.
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Does this sound familiar?
Why does it matter?
It has shaped the way I understand and work with my clients.
My experiences have shaped the way I understand and work with my clients.
After many years of frustration with treatments that masked the symptoms without addressing the root cause of my anxiety and depression, I discovered Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy. ​
Today, as a Psychotherapist, I focus on the principles of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy to help my clients transform their lives.
I have worked with women from over 8 different countries, helping them heal from unhealthy anxiety with my method.
I also mentor and provide training to women from over 9 different countries.​
What to Expect from Therapy
Hey, I get it.
Facing anxiety or depression is tough, and finding the right support is crucial. That`s why you will find:
Non-judgmental & Compassionate Space:
Imagine talking to someone who's there for you, with no judgment, just compassion. It's like having a safe space to explore and process what you're going through.
Tailored approach:
The approach is like a tailor-made suit for your emotions, adapting to your circumstances and experiences. No one-size-fits-all here. This personalized touch makes the therapeutic process more effective, as it's designed just for you.
Evidence & Experience Based:
Think about support that’s not just warm and fuzzy but also backed by evidence and experience. The methods used are tested and proven effective, providing a reliable guide on this journey—one that understands and responds to your unique needs. This approach dives into the root causes of trauma and issues, ensuring comprehensive healing.
Corinthian Close, Basingstoke, RG22 4TN